THIS IS A GIVEAWAY FOR A FREE (autographed!!) COPY OF THE BOOK: Secrets about Guys that Shouldn’t be Secret by Grace Dove. If you’re a member of my church, you might remember that last February I spoke at our ladies’ soup and salad supper and the topic of my talk was READING. The last point of my message was to encourage you to give away good literature to people! Giving away good books to people whom I love REALLY WORKS FOR ME and I am so excited to tell you about this one.
Let me just say upfront, if you’re the mother of a teenage daughter or a Sunday School teacher of teenage girls, or you just know a teenage girl– RUN (don’t walk) to your nearest Christian bookstore and buy Secrets about Guys That Shouldn’t Be Secret by Grace Dove today.
I can’t tell you often I see girls in the mall or even girls at church and I just want to run up to them and say, “Oh, I”m so sorry Darlin’, your shirt doesn’t seem to fit! Here’s a bigger one– you can have it! Cover up! Quick! Before someone sees you!” Of course, I would be laughed out of town if I did such things, but still! It’s my inner, urge!
Immodest clothing for girls and even more– immodest behavior has become such a social norm, that no one even thinks of it as abnomal. In fact, the problem is so endemic, that I have a hard time as a pastor’s wife and a high school girl’s Sunday School teacher trying to even communicate what I’m getting at when I talk about behavior that is “appropriate” and “inappropriate” for Christian girls.
But help is here.
Grace Dove, in her book Secrets about Guys that Shouldn’t be Secret, has figured out how to communicate with girls in a clear, fun, and easy to read way. Written in the much loved “Top 10” magazine format, the book contains twelve issues that are so important for our Christian girls to learn about but she calls the issues “secrets about guys” which makes them all very intriguing for a teenager to read.
First, she covers modesty and includes a fun poll in which 86% of guys surveyed said that “girls wear tops that are too revealing.” In the process, Grace shows that her theology is rock solid as she subtly weaves in her Biblical reasoning for all of the “secrets.” Under the point of modesty, she talks about modest dressing being “a sign that we are under God’s authority.”
Don’t beat yourself up if you are discovering that your views on modesty don’t match God’s. Even Adam and Eve didn’t get it right the first time. After they sinned, they sewed leaves together to cover themselves. (Genesis 3:7) God didn’t see that as adequate because He provided different coverings for them. (Genesis 3:21) God knew something about the signficance of being properly clothed that Adam and Eve didn’t understand. Now that we have the Bible though, we don’t have to make the same mistake.
My favorite chapter in the book is about guys “liking a little mystery.” “Guys love a challenge,” she says. “Guys are by nature conquereors.” These are universal truths that most girls just don’t understand. If girls realized how beautiful mystery is, I really believe many would work a little harder to cultivate it. She says “Like unwrapped gifts under a Christmas tree, many girls have no secrets, no surprises, no suspense.” If you (as a mother) have ever thought “I don’t want my girls telephoning boys” but then you couldn’t figure out how to explain your thoughts to your daughter, Grace Dove does that for you here. She talks about mystery in behavior, mystery in conversation and mystery in modest dress. And again– her writing style is so teenage girl friendly– your daughter won’t feel “preached to” as she reads it. She will feel that she is getting sage and savvy advice from someone who has “been there.”
In a day when many girls think that low rider blue jeans, tatoos and nose rings are pretty, Grace talks about what true beauty is. She mentions that one’s walk with the Lord, a humble heart and a pleasant expression are three things that often get overlooked when a girl is working on her appearance. And– I LOVED THIS– she talks about how appealing feminine dress is to guys and challenged the girls to wear a skirt once in a while. She clearly wants girls to embrace their God-given femininity AND ENJOY IT! What a fresh and much needed message that our girls need to hear today.
The last chapter was about guys noticing homemaking skill. My husband read this chapter and he completely agreed with everything written. (And he reminded me that he can still remember that I mended a shirt of his during our college days and that he didn’t wash the shirt for days afterward because he loved the smell of the Downy that I used when I also washed and pressed it for him.)
He concurred with Grace and said it would surprise young women to know how much guys notice a girl who seems to love children and the home. Apparently, when it comes to marriage material– guys take notice of these things! And of course, Grace makes the topic so fun by even including a killer Chocolate Chip cookie recipe.
I’m so tempted to go through the book for you line by line and share all twelve of the secrets– but I’m just not going to do it! I really want you to buy the book and give copies to all of the teenage girls in your life. (I’m planning on buying a copy for every girl in my Sunday School class! And NO, I don’t get any sort of kickback from this review– I just REALLY believe in the message of this book!) There are many books on Christian dating out on the market, but very few books on the subject of becoming the kind of girl you need to be to attract the right kind of guy. Whether you are a girl of 13 or 23, this book offers practical wisdom that you need for life.
To be included in the book give away, just leave a comment saying something like “I believe in this message and would love to win the book!” or you could even write, “I’m not sure what I think about this way of thinking and would love to learn more. Put my name in for the drawing!” Whatever. Just leave a comment! 🙂 And don’t forget to leave a working email address! I’ll close comments for the giveaway on December 3rd
Happy Thanksgiving y’all! And for lots of other “Works for me Wednesday” tips from other mothers and wives, go to Shannon’s site at Rocks in My Dryer!